Why being vegetarian might hurt your chances on dating apps

A study published in the Social Psychological Bulletin reveals that individuals following a vegetarian diet may be viewed as less attractive dating partners by meat-eaters, particularly in Poland, a country with a strong meat-eating tradition. Participants in the study, who were all heterosexual meat-eaters, rated dating profiles of vegetarians less favorably than profiles with no mention of dietary habits.

The researchers, led by Dominika Adamczyk of the University of Warsaw, sought to investigate how dietary habits, particularly vegetarianism, influence perceptions of attractiveness and suitability as romantic partners. The study was motivated by the cultural significance of food in romantic relationships and the broader influence of gender roles and traditional values in Polish society. Vegetarianism, often seen as a social identity rather than merely a dietary preference, was hypothesized to challenge traditional norms and provoke biases among omnivores.

To explore these dynamics, the researchers conducted an online experiment with 404 heterosexual meat-eaters (204 women and 200 men) aged 18 to 82. Participants were presented with a simulated dating profile of a potential partner whose dietary habits were manipulated across four conditions: vegetarian for ethical reasons, vegetarian for environmental reasons, vegetarian for health reasons, or no mention of dietary habits (control condition).

Participants evaluated the profiles based on a “feeling thermometer” (a measure of general attitudes), willingness to date the individual, gender congruence, and the presence of masculine or feminine traits. Participants’ level of identification as a meat-eater was also measured to determine its influence on their perceptions.

The study found that profiles with no dietary information were consistently rated more positively than profiles of vegetarians. Among vegetarian profiles, those motivated by health reasons were rated least favorably across several measures, including willingness to date, masculinity, femininity, and gender congruence. Ethically motivated vegetarians, particularly men, were perceived less positively by women compared to their male counterparts evaluating ethically motivated female vegetarians.

Interestingly, the researchers observed that vegetarianism influenced perceptions of masculinity and femininity, with male vegetarians often being viewed as less masculine and women vegetarians as less feminine compared to their meat-eating counterparts.

The researchers interpreted these findings through the lens of cultural and psychological theories. One explanation is the “similarity effect,” which suggests that individuals are more attracted to those who share similar values and lifestyles. Since dietary habits often reflect deeper values, meat-eaters may perceive vegetarians as fundamentally different, making them less desirable as romantic partners.

Furthermore, in a traditional and patriarchal society like Poland, vegetarianism might be seen as a deviation from conventional norms, especially for men. Meat consumption is culturally associated with strength and masculinity, so rejecting meat could challenge societal expectations of male behavior.

Another notable finding was the role of the motivation behind vegetarianism. Health-motivated vegetarians were perceived least favorably, possibly because their dietary choice was seen as self-centered rather than altruistic. This contrasts with ethically and environmentally motivated vegetarians, whose choices might align more with broader societal values, such as compassion and sustainability.

However, the negative perception of health-motivated vegetarians in a dating context may stem from stereotypes of such individuals as overly rigid or demanding in their lifestyle choices, which could signal potential challenges in a romantic relationship.

Despite these significant findings, the study had some limitations. For example, the researchers only included heterosexual participants and evaluated opposite-sex profiles, leaving questions about how these dynamics might play out in same-sex relationships or among non-heterosexual individuals. Additionally, the study’s context in Poland, with its strong meat-eating tradition and traditional gender roles, may limit the generalizability of the findings to other cultures. Future research could explore how these perceptions vary across different cultural settings, as well as examine how short-term versus long-term relationship contexts influence the attractiveness of vegetarians.

The study also raises important questions about the intersection of gender norms and dietary choices. For example, the researchers noted that vegetarian men might face unique challenges due to societal associations between masculinity and meat consumption. However, evolving perceptions of masculinity in modern society could reshape how vegetarian men are perceived in the future.

The study, “Dating a Vegetarian? Perception of Masculinity, Attractiveness, and the Willingness to Date Vegetarians,” was authored by Dominika Adamczyk, John B. Nezlek, and Dominika Maison.