Does your partner’s drinking hurt your mental health? Men may feel it most

A new study published in Personal Relationships explores how perceptions of a romantic partner’s drinking habits are related to relationship satisfaction and mental health among young adults. The study finds that when young men perceive their partner as having problematic drinking behavior, they are more likely to report increased symptoms of depression. The findings also suggest that men’s mental health and relationship satisfaction are more impacted by the quantity and nature of drinking within the relationship than women’s.

Alcohol consumption is prevalent among young adults, especially in college environments. Over half of individuals aged 18 to 25 report drinking alcohol in the past month, and around 30 percent engage in binge drinking. The college environment, with its social norms and opportunities for drinking, exacerbates alcohol use, which peaks during this period of life. Young adults’ romantic relationships are another critical context that can influence their drinking habits and overall well-being.

The researchers aimed to examine the intersection of romantic relationships, alcohol use, and mental health. Specifically, they were interested in understanding how individuals’ perceptions of their partner’s drinking behavior influenced their own mental health and relationship satisfaction. This area has been underexplored, particularly in non-married, young adult populations, as most research has focused on older, married couples.

The study involved 239 undergraduate students from a large southwestern university in the United States, all of whom were between the ages of 18 and 25, unmarried, and in a romantic relationship for at least three months. The participants were primarily female (76 percent) and predominantly white (87 percent). They were asked to report their own drinking habits and their perceptions of their partner’s drinking over the past two weeks and three months. The researchers also measured their levels of anxiety, depression, and relationship satisfaction.

To assess drinking behaviors, participants completed questionnaires that asked about how much alcohol they and their partner consumed, including how often they drank, the number of drinks they typically consumed, and whether they engaged in binge drinking. The study also used established scales to measure symptoms of anxiety and depression, as well as relationship satisfaction.

The researchers grouped the participants into categories based on their drinking behaviors and drinking problems, which are defined as negative consequences related to alcohol consumption. Two drinking quantity partnerships were identified: “concordant low” and “concordant heavy,” where both partners either drank lightly or heavily, respectively. For drinking problems, three partnerships emerged: “concordant low” (both partners reported low drinking problems), “discordant female high” (the female partner had high drinking problems, while the male partner did not), and “discordant male high” (the male partner had high drinking problems, while the female partner did not).

The most significant result was that men who perceived their partner as having drinking problems tended to report higher levels of depression. This pattern was not observed in women, which may indicate that men could experience a stronger association between their partner’s problematic drinking and depressive symptoms.

In contrast, perceived partner drinking behavior was not significantly linked to symptoms of anxiety for either men or women. This finding was somewhat unexpected, considering the known association between drinking problems and other mental health issues. However, men reported significantly higher levels of anxiety when both they and their partner were heavy drinkers, while this effect was not observed in women.

The researchers also identified differences in how drinking patterns were related to relationship satisfaction. Men’s relationship satisfaction tended to decrease when they perceived their own drinking behavior as problematic, particularly in relationships where both partners drank heavily. In these cases, men reported lower relationship satisfaction. For women, relationship satisfaction appeared less influenced by these factors, suggesting that men may be more sensitive to how their own and their partner’s drinking behavior relates to their feelings of relationship satisfaction.

While the study provides valuable insights, it has some limitations that should be considered. First, the study relied on self-reported data, which can be influenced by biases in how participants perceive their behavior and their partner’s. People might overestimate or underestimate their partner’s drinking, which could affect the results.

Additionally, the study used a cross-sectional design, meaning the data was collected at one point in time. As a result, it is difficult to establish cause-and-effect relationships. For example, it is unclear whether perceived partner drinking problems cause depression or whether individuals with depression are more likely to perceive their partner’s drinking as problematic.

To build on these findings, future research could examine how romantic partner drinking influences mental health over time. Longitudinal studies, which follow participants over months or years, would help clarify the direction of the relationship between partner drinking and mental health. For instance, does a partner’s drinking behavior worsen an individual’s mental health over time, or do pre-existing mental health issues lead to changes in perceptions of a partner’s drinking?

Finally, interventions could be developed based on these findings. If men are particularly vulnerable to anxiety and dissatisfaction in relationships where heavy drinking is present, then targeted mental health and relationship counseling for couples may help mitigate these effects. These interventions could focus on communication skills and strategies for managing drinking behaviors within the relationship.

The study, “Anxiety and depression in young adults: The role of perceived romantic partner drinking,” was authored by Katie P. Himes, Sarah E. Victor, Adam T. Schmidt, and Andrew K. Littlefield.